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# Practical guide Intimacy focus Peaceful mindset The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace

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- • **Empower Your Journey:** Guidance for personal growth and fulfillment.
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## Overview

The Surrendered Wife is a transformative guide that empowers women to find intimacy, passion, and peace in their relationships. Published in 2001, this practical book offers actionable strategies and insights to help women navigate the complexities of love and connection, fostering a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners.

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Review: The essence of togetherness & independence - This is a challenging and great book. My marriage has grown better and he's been extra adoring since I started following these principles. And I do make plenty of mistakes still. I would recommmend this to every wife. Problem is, not every wife will be willing to swap her controlling behaviours for a happy marriage. Only read it if you: 1. Want a strong alpha male for a husband (and who doesn't?) 2. Want him to treat you like a precious jewel (and who doesn't?) 3. Want these things more than you want to feel right, superior or comfortably skeptical about your husband's abilities to do basic s*** in life. You really have to want to have a happy marriage to read this with an open mind. If you're rigid or defensive when you read it, you won't like it or apply it or benefit from it. You also have to know - men desperately want to be able to make their wives happy. And in here is how to do it. She discusses giving up "control" of your husband. And you may be surprised at what constitutes as control. Everything from innocently telling him what to dress the baby in to telling him how to drive like a nagging little pain in the neck. You see, when you do these things you are really saying "I don't trust you to do a good job of it on your own." And in truth, you might not trust him!!! We have all been there. BUT the essence of this book says in part: Men take their self-perception from their wives. (So Ladies you have to fake it till you make it). So if you are used to criticising his way or just advising him, you undermine his ability to be the man you want him to be. You see? From her book, is a quote by John Gray who wrote Men are From Mars: "When a man does not feel loved just the way he is, he will wither consciously or unconsciously repeat the behaviour that is not being accepted. He feels an inner complusion to repeat the behaviour until he feels loved and accepted." He didn't meet and marry you so that he could be advised on every action for the rest of his life. If you're advising or demanding - you're mothering = so not sexy & desirable. (ie. forget roses and chocolates if you're bossy.) So that sums that up. Onward. She also discusses how once you give up control, (allowing him to man up and be awesome like you wanted when you married him), you can tell him anything and everything that YOU WANT. Knowing what you want without a demand or controlling how he provides it, allows him to figure it out and provide it, if it's possible and to become the man whom can provide it! I can back this up - my man would give me anything. And if you don't ask for it, you probably won't receive it. She is a big supporter of self-care, time to yourself etc. Really worth a read if you take marriage seriously. I'm applying 7/8 of it. There's a quote by the author when she says not to tell him to turn around even if he's missed his turn and is in danger of leaving the state. Maybe in time I'll see it her way, but for now as a newbie, that's just not being a good partner to neglect mentioning something, in my opinion. But I can see that she's saying the less you say, the more trusting he knows you are, the better he'll do for you both.
Review: Saved My Marriage and Helped me Become Confident and Sexy Again! - This book saved my marriage. After 5 years, my husband was ready to call it quits. He was no longer romantic or helpful. He never wanted to have any intimacy or hang out. He started to lie and buy expensive man toys and spent all of his time on hobbies. It was a constant struggle to get him to even help with the dishes. He even started to secretly smoke again. He was unwilling to compromise with anything and I really had no idea why. He even got verbally abusive in some of our worst arguments. I thought I had married a monster! When we were dating, he was the most romantic and sweetest man I had ever met who wanted to make me happy all the time. I felt like marriage had changed him and I was accidentally fooled into marrying the wrong guy. Finally, he explained how unhappy he was. He felt disrespected and he felt like I treated him like a child. He didn't want to even hang out with me for fear of being nagged or treated like he was inferior. He said he looked at other couples and felt sad when he saw women laughing and looking up to their men, because he thought I looked at him like a piece of garbage. I didn't want to face that all of this was true at first, but then I read this book and it was like reading my memoir. As soon as I started making changes, even small ones, my husband started to change too. He started to help out more. He asked me to help him with his hobbies. He started to be open and communicate about finances more. He even told me he was quitting smoking again and would be open about it. But the best is when I caught him gazing at me, something I hadn't seen him do in years. And this is when I'm pregnant and in sweats! Some of the negative reviews think this book is degrading to women or belittles them. What is so degrading about treating your husband with respect? Nobody likes to be nagged. Nothing is attractive about being his mom! Men don't get married, so their wife can change them. They get married because the woman accepts them for who they are and makes them feel good about themselves. Marriage shouldn't change this! And when you treat someone as if they were amazing, they usually will live up to that! You married him for a reason, right? You shouldn't treat your man as a woman either, because...well he's not and men and women are different in so many ways. And thank goodness! I would never respect my husband if he acted like a pushover! What if your man told you what to do? What chores to do, when to do them, how to do them? You would think that is pretty disrespectful. I used to think it was a woman's job to fix a man, but I was so wrong. A woman's job is to build her husband up, to make him feel good about himself, and to appreciate what they do. In return, they will be more helpful and they will desire you. You can fight these concepts if you want, but considering the divorce rate (and that doesn't include the men that are unhappily married and/or straying), I'll take my chances with following them. I think with feminist ideology and the marriage relationships we see on TV (think Everyone Loves Raymond, King of Queens), we have viewed men as stupid and lazy and the wife needs to fix them. But are those women attractive? Physically yes....but their nagging and complaining makes them anything but! If they were more gentle and respectful, they would be hot! I can't even watch those shows anymore, because they are so annoying and in real life those men would be miserable or cheating or on the way to the lawyers office. I am an educated, working mother-to-be. I'm strong and independent. But I also want to be seen as a desirable and attractive woman for my husband, and I want him to be the leader of our household. I think that is true feminism. Being intelligent, hardworking, and strong, but also being vulnerable, desirable, and trusting. That's sexy! This book showed me how disrespectful, and in some ways abusive, to my husband. But it gave me concrete ways to fix it. My husband is now back to his sweat, romantic, trustworthy, respectful, and helpful self!

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #32,257 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #63 in Sex & Sexuality #112 in Marriage #116 in Love & Romance (Books) |
| Customer Reviews | 4.5 4.5 out of 5 stars (1,844) |
| Dimensions  | 5.5 x 0.72 x 8.44 inches |
| Edition  | Original ed. |
| ISBN-10  | 0743204441 |
| ISBN-13  | 978-0743204446 |
| Item Weight  | 9.6 ounces |
| Language  | English |
| Print length  | 288 pages |
| Publication date  | January 8, 2001 |
| Publisher  | Touchstone |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ The essence of togetherness & independence
*by A***E on April 5, 2013*

This is a challenging and great book. My marriage has grown better and he's been extra adoring since I started following these principles. And I do make plenty of mistakes still. I would recommmend this to every wife. Problem is, not every wife will be willing to swap her controlling behaviours for a happy marriage. Only read it if you: 1. Want a strong alpha male for a husband (and who doesn't?) 2. Want him to treat you like a precious jewel (and who doesn't?) 3. Want these things more than you want to feel right, superior or comfortably skeptical about your husband's abilities to do basic s*** in life. You really have to want to have a happy marriage to read this with an open mind. If you're rigid or defensive when you read it, you won't like it or apply it or benefit from it. You also have to know - men desperately want to be able to make their wives happy. And in here is how to do it. She discusses giving up "control" of your husband. And you may be surprised at what constitutes as control. Everything from innocently telling him what to dress the baby in to telling him how to drive like a nagging little pain in the neck. You see, when you do these things you are really saying "I don't trust you to do a good job of it on your own." And in truth, you might not trust him!!! We have all been there. BUT the essence of this book says in part: Men take their self-perception from their wives. (So Ladies you have to fake it till you make it). So if you are used to criticising his way or just advising him, you undermine his ability to be the man you want him to be. You see? From her book, is a quote by John Gray who wrote Men are From Mars: "When a man does not feel loved just the way he is, he will wither consciously or unconsciously repeat the behaviour that is not being accepted. He feels an inner complusion to repeat the behaviour until he feels loved and accepted." He didn't meet and marry you so that he could be advised on every action for the rest of his life. If you're advising or demanding - you're mothering = so not sexy & desirable. (ie. forget roses and chocolates if you're bossy.) So that sums that up. Onward. She also discusses how once you give up control, (allowing him to man up and be awesome like you wanted when you married him), you can tell him anything and everything that YOU WANT. Knowing what you want without a demand or controlling how he provides it, allows him to figure it out and provide it, if it's possible and to become the man whom can provide it! I can back this up - my man would give me anything. And if you don't ask for it, you probably won't receive it. She is a big supporter of self-care, time to yourself etc. Really worth a read if you take marriage seriously. I'm applying 7/8 of it. There's a quote by the author when she says not to tell him to turn around even if he's missed his turn and is in danger of leaving the state. Maybe in time I'll see it her way, but for now as a newbie, that's just not being a good partner to neglect mentioning something, in my opinion. But I can see that she's saying the less you say, the more trusting he knows you are, the better he'll do for you both.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Saved My Marriage and Helped me Become Confident and Sexy Again!
*by R***1 on January 3, 2015*

This book saved my marriage. After 5 years, my husband was ready to call it quits. He was no longer romantic or helpful. He never wanted to have any intimacy or hang out. He started to lie and buy expensive man toys and spent all of his time on hobbies. It was a constant struggle to get him to even help with the dishes. He even started to secretly smoke again. He was unwilling to compromise with anything and I really had no idea why. He even got verbally abusive in some of our worst arguments. I thought I had married a monster! When we were dating, he was the most romantic and sweetest man I had ever met who wanted to make me happy all the time. I felt like marriage had changed him and I was accidentally fooled into marrying the wrong guy. Finally, he explained how unhappy he was. He felt disrespected and he felt like I treated him like a child. He didn't want to even hang out with me for fear of being nagged or treated like he was inferior. He said he looked at other couples and felt sad when he saw women laughing and looking up to their men, because he thought I looked at him like a piece of garbage. I didn't want to face that all of this was true at first, but then I read this book and it was like reading my memoir. As soon as I started making changes, even small ones, my husband started to change too. He started to help out more. He asked me to help him with his hobbies. He started to be open and communicate about finances more. He even told me he was quitting smoking again and would be open about it. But the best is when I caught him gazing at me, something I hadn't seen him do in years. And this is when I'm pregnant and in sweats! Some of the negative reviews think this book is degrading to women or belittles them. What is so degrading about treating your husband with respect? Nobody likes to be nagged. Nothing is attractive about being his mom! Men don't get married, so their wife can change them. They get married because the woman accepts them for who they are and makes them feel good about themselves. Marriage shouldn't change this! And when you treat someone as if they were amazing, they usually will live up to that! You married him for a reason, right? You shouldn't treat your man as a woman either, because...well he's not and men and women are different in so many ways. And thank goodness! I would never respect my husband if he acted like a pushover! What if your man told you what to do? What chores to do, when to do them, how to do them? You would think that is pretty disrespectful. I used to think it was a woman's job to fix a man, but I was so wrong. A woman's job is to build her husband up, to make him feel good about himself, and to appreciate what they do. In return, they will be more helpful and they will desire you. You can fight these concepts if you want, but considering the divorce rate (and that doesn't include the men that are unhappily married and/or straying), I'll take my chances with following them. I think with feminist ideology and the marriage relationships we see on TV (think Everyone Loves Raymond, King of Queens), we have viewed men as stupid and lazy and the wife needs to fix them. But are those women attractive? Physically yes....but their nagging and complaining makes them anything but! If they were more gentle and respectful, they would be hot! I can't even watch those shows anymore, because they are so annoying and in real life those men would be miserable or cheating or on the way to the lawyers office. I am an educated, working mother-to-be. I'm strong and independent. But I also want to be seen as a desirable and attractive woman for my husband, and I want him to be the leader of our household. I think that is true feminism. Being intelligent, hardworking, and strong, but also being vulnerable, desirable, and trusting. That's sexy! This book showed me how disrespectful, and in some ways abusive, to my husband. But it gave me concrete ways to fix it. My husband is now back to his sweat, romantic, trustworthy, respectful, and helpful self!

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Painful truth, love it 😆
*by J***A on January 1, 2026*

I love reading this book. It helped me see myself through a different point of view! I also recommend getting a physical book vs reading on phone because it helps to get a better sense of what is being stated.

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