The Narc Decoder: Understanding the Language of the Narcissist

This should absolutely be one of the first, if not the first, book you read when going through custody hell with a narcissist.In the beginning stages of my battle, I was completely caught off guard by the barrage of accusatory, bullying, and often times incomprehensible messages. I would become physically sick when reading these, and I would spend hours pawning over responses that I believed would make my nEx “realize” what he was saying wasn’t true.Until I discovered this book, I had no idea I was feeding into exactly what nEx craved- he was getting my attention, and so much of it!I have multiple pages sticky-noted, as I reference them that often.My mom has now also read the book, and when a message comes through that puts my head in a fog, she becomes my real life “narc decoder,” helping me implement what we’ve learned. Sincerely Tina, thank you! I’d have already drowned in this battle if it weren’t for your resources and the community I’ve found through OMB.

Tina is an amazing person. There are many father's rights groups that bully this woman and her organization because they are Narcissists themselves. A Narcissist will never ever admit fault and take responsibility for anything that they do. That being said, I have read all of her books. I like that this is a short book so it does not take up a lot of time to read. The book is about how you should talk to a Narcissist if at all. It also explains how to understand or decode messages you receive from them. I highly recommend this book.

If you are dealing with a relationship in which your partner seems oblivious to your concerns or even takes delight in your pain, if you are blaming yourself, reading every self help book you can find and crying on the couch of your counselor, or if you have left said partner but they still can't leave you alone, I would recommend you find a quiet space and read this book without delay. It's the antidote to the poison of the narcissist.

I can’t say enough about this enlightening Educating well written book.It speaks to all of us that had no idea what we were experiencing and Tina nailed it. Knowledge is empowering,Tina has helped me as the Mom of a daughter that never understood what was really happening?? We both read this and felt a connection and validation. Tina is a great advocate for all that have suffered in silence and the unknown of what the heck was happening??Tina story is heartbreaking and hit home. It is inspiring, giving all of us who can relate the hope to move forward and find our self back joy and power. Thank you Tina ! Ps we had quite a few laughs as our stories were so similar... and although unbelievable.. to be laughing through a nightmare full of craziness and pain .. finding humor felt good. Narc decoder is brilliant. Great tips and definitely Excellent tools that we’ve already have begun to practice. The Family court system needs to get educated and One Moms Battle Package should be required read by all the court systems surely mental health professionals, attorneys !Wake up!!Men Woman and children are being emotionally abused and manipulated by these horrible evil people. Expose them. Help stop the madness and may justice and consequences prevail! All Tinas’s books and her website One Moms Battle I highly recommend. 🌈☮️✝️

This authors work has changed my life and my childrens lives over the last five years. To navigate the family court system with an ex who has NPD is a living nightmare. But to have the knowledge Tina shares is priceless. Buying my third copy for a friend entering this battle to protect her children.

This is an amazing tool for learning when to respond, what the hidden messages are, and simply making sense of the madness that we live. It is a tool that gave me some sanity as I was in a place of feeling the need to continually defend myself in his rants against me. Even though I knew the writings were very deliberate lies and meant simply to cast a false light for the Judge and hurt me insidiously, I felt it may be believed if I didn't react. However, reading this book gave me some power back and allowed me to view things in a different light. Highly recommend. I also bought a copy for my Attorney and she's found it very helpful and enlightening. As an outside source who hasn't lived it, my attorney saw much more clearly the abuse that still continues today and both this book and Divorcing A Narcissist, have given my attorney such better insight to help her fight alongside me. Thank you Tina!

Get this book if you have a narcissist in your life. Tina provides such good information and examples as to decoding what the narcissist is saying which is ALWAYS to put you down so they can continue to control you.

Such a relief to decode the delusional rants and total BS that comes out of his head and be able to formulate a proper response. Removing yourself as the supply is priceless. This is the go-to first recommendation when I find someone else in a similar situation.

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This book was very helpful, a really good read! I recommend it to anyone going through a divorce with a narc.

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