Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved

This is a deeply challenging but enormously valuable book that could change your life, if you do the work. Uncovering the ways in which we disallow, or undermine the love that others are trying to give us is painful to discover, but ultimately powerful, enlightening and liberating. Truly profound and transformational, though difficult, work.

Many of us know how to give love to our partners, but so many of us have a hard time accepting love. Rejecting affection and help from those closest to us undermines our relationships. This is the valuable lesson I learned from ‘Receiving Love.’ I’m so glad that I stumbled upon this book it truly is intelligent and insightful.

There are so many parts to this book that click and make sense. This is a book I'll keep forever and go back to when needed. One of the best self help books I've read!!

I am familiar with Hendrix's Imago workshop format, attended one years ago in NY with my significant other. It was one of the most challenging and difficult weekend experiences of my life! The relationship did not last, having NOTHING to do with the workshop (it was hanging by threads before).Years later, a good friend who is a therapist, recommended Receiving Love. I felt quite resistant, based on my limited experience, however, since I know many couples who have benefitted from Harville's work, I decided my resistance must mean there is something for me to learn.I am learning and opening my heart to issues I thought were healed. Maybe some stuff is never complete... at least for me, I sometimes need more fine tuning, to rehash areas of my childhood that may be lingering quietly in the dark recesses.The book is a valuable guide (even for those not in relationship right now, like me) to clarify why things are not working in the "sample" couples. In fact, I think the sampling covers just about any potential issue, except perhaps extreme abuse.The exercises are very challenging, I've only done the easy ones so far. The material is deeply thought-provoking, solidly researched and presented with compassion and intellect.I appreciate the Hendrixes work, style and dedication to helping people discover themselves. This material offers the endless opportunity to heal yourself and help your mate heal their childhood wounds. Isn't that what we all want?Give yourself and your partner a huge gift... read this book, then do the exercises. And talk and keep talking...Pie Dumas - Author & Life Coach

Great book!

This has been a very good book. It is much, much deeper than the usual self-help in that it actually uses a therapeutic approach. Some of it has been very hard to wrap my understanding around but I have taken away much more than I didn't get. They primarily use 3 "cases" to demonstrate the problems and the solutions. Of course, no one is ever exactly the same or comes from the same circumstances but I could see myself in each of them which makes it easier to make connections on a day to day living experience.My only big issue with it was that it used homosexual relationships on a few occasions to be politically correct and I did not think they were applicable to the marriage relationship...that is just a whole different ball of wax.They also threw in a few biblical terms and quotes that were not used in a biblical way but used in a more cultural, iconic way. Not particularly helpful.I would recommend this book but you have to really, really be looking to move from where you are to a new place...it takes work and effort and consistency and transparency with your spouse.

I can't be more thankful!! Your books have helped me to grow into a better person. But what's more important, they helped me to love and appreciate myself way more. I do not deserve to settle for less than what I am. My standard are high, this can be tricky somehow since I may never find the love I deserve but it's ok, I rather be alone than being with someone who nearly appreciate the person I am as I appreciate myself for the person I've become. Thank you!!!

I read this before "Getting the Love You Want," and the combination, while some bits crossover, is truly a revelation. These and Marshall Rosenberg's work on Non-Violent Communication are guide posts along a journey towards love and healing, for which I'm increasingly grateful. We can't unknow what we become aware of, and Dr. Hendrix 's work is becoming more and more obvious in any interaction with others, seeing how our childhood attachments play into adulthood. Simply life-changing!

El mejor libro para conocerte que he leído nunca. Aviso es denso pero es increíble lo que se descubre.

Both this book and Getting the love you want have been a lifeline for me and partners lives, highly recommend for relationships or single people.

Interesting read if you are struggling with this aspect in a relationship and you already have gained some insight and awareness from your own therapeutic experience of your own pathology.

I liked this book enough to recommend it and lend it to a friend. It has lots of interesting ideas. For example, one of the authors' postulations is that we marry a person who reminds us on some subconcious level of our most troublesome parent. We could not do anything about this as a child, but as an adult, we set about changing what we so much disliked in our childhood. The marital conflict follows. I do think, however, that this book has three major drawbacks. 1. Eventhough the authors briefly mention that their exercises could be useful if done by one person on their own, in my opinion, for their therapy to work you really do need two willing participants. 2. The exercises feel rather contrite and artificial to me, I do think, one might need the nudge of a therapist to get the couple started at least. 3. I fail to see how these elaborate exercises can bring swift results, in fact, the authors themselves admit, some couples spent years in their therapy. If one needs a book which can bring results fast I would definitely recommend "5 Languages of Love" by Gary Chapman. This book would be useful even if only one partner is prepared to put in the effort. If you are a female and feeling brave you can always go for "Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle. And since I found so many Buddhist concepts lurking underneath "Receiving Love" (eventhough the authors never mentioned their faith or the lack thereof) I thought I would recommend "Buddha in Your Mirror" by Woody Hochswender, Greg Martin and Ted Morino.

A wonderful book, highlighting the transformation thats needed to support my clients to sail bliss-fully in their co-created relation-ship.