Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love By Understanding Your Personality Type Hardcover – January 20, 2009

Great book for singles or couples if you like knowing more about yourself and who you're compatible with.

I decided to buy the book after seeing Helen Fisher on the Colbert Report. She handled herself well, and gave several intelligent teases to create desire for the book.I'm married, very happily, and thought the book would have some transferable ideas to marketing (my vocation).Other reviews cover the material in the book.Let me say first that the backbone of her research has been done before. There are 4 personality types. They have been called many things by different authors. The reason I don't mind that is that the author acknowledges the fact, and provides the source material. She then ties the personality types with brain chemistry, and does it convincingly. I haven't seen that before.Sure, she mentions her work with two online dating services. But it's part of the story, and to omit that would cheat the reader. Any author worth their salt would mention the work they have done in the past. In fact, her work for these companies is the basis of much of her research.She includes quotations from philosophers, businesspeople, even Einstein.These quotations add to the reading by showing what type(personality type, that is) of person thinks in what way.She includes personal stories that, if they were missing, would make this a harder read.Some of what she says has been covered before...but there isn't a book written that covers JUST new material. The way I see it, for $20 you got a few hours of intelligent introspection into what makes you the way you are...how others perceive you...and what others will be attracted (and repelled) in you. Certainly worth the price.By the way, I'm 100% Director, married to a near 100% Negotiator. According to the book, we're a perfect match. And we are.added 3/04/09 I noticed that most of the bad reviews are for the CD. I read the book. It must be a different experience.

Excellent book! I'm about half-way through the book and it has helped me become more clearly aware of my personality traits. This is helpful in general but the context of the book is how our personalities interact with the personalities of those we meet, date and have relationships with.However, do not assume that another person with theoretically ideal scores on the test will automatically be your ideal partner. There are 15 questions on the test for each of the four personality categories. 60 questions will only result in a general idea of who a person is. There is much more to our personalities that is not revealed. A lady friend and I have what appear to be ideal scores but we'd never get along in a relationship because of some specific personality traits. So don't blindly read the book thinking that you will easily find the perfect match. But it should be very helpful.Even though I scored highly as an "Explorer", not everything that the author writes in describing Explorers is true of me. So, as I'm reading, I underline what I feel is true of me. A potential partner could skim through my copy of the book and get a good idea of who I am.Keep something else in mind. Although the author emphasizes a person's two highest scores, that doesn't mean that the lower two categories do not apply at all to a person. Otherwise some additional personality traits could be overlooked and they could be important aspects of a person's personality.

I must say: I love, love , love this book. Like most research biologist, I like to understand how systems work and humans are no different to other biological species... they rely on chemical signals, thresholds, neurons and receptors. I like to use myself as a guinie-pig as much as possible to test my limits and compare them to others, so this book was very intriguing to me when I first read it.When looking for a partner the first thing is to know yourself. Dr. Fisher has developed a questionnaire to help you find out what makes you tick based on your biological make-up. Once you know the type of person you are then you can start to seek for the type of person that would best suit your personality. I was a little skeptical at first, seeing that I'm the 'Director' type and by nature a born skeptic. I used to think I needed to find someone similar to myself: blunt, forward, and someone that likes to cut to the chase. Little did I realize that I actually needed someone who complimented my personality type... I required a 'Negotiator'. I actually gave this personality test to my boyfriend to take fairly on in our courtship and he had the 'Negotiator' traits. I don't think I'm found anyone more compatible to me than him - he feels the same way.For an entertaining, scientifically sound, and informative read on finding the right type of person for you, then this is a must read.

If you are interested in human behaviour, in what defines us from a genetic point of view and what makes some of us more attractive to others and why we do not have to be loved by everyone no matter how hard we tried to be complacent and nice, then this book will be extremely informative.I call it an ‘eye-opener’. I am one of those people who will do anything to be “loved” by others (my primary personality type is negotiator). However, as my second personality type is the explorer, that makes me detached and sometimes a bit of a loner. Then, I thought there was something wrong with me. How can I like people so much but want to be alone at the same time?- The answer was simple; I have a more or less balanced personality in the following order: Negotiator/explorer and Director/Builder.So after reading the book, I feel that I know and understand more about myself and that is helping me to be more flexible.Furthermore, it made me realise that there is nothing wrong with my husband either (he is a director/explorer), and that even when we can be very different, still we agree in the most essential and significant things.

Absolutely adored reading this book - I am studying psychology and have always been fascinated with the personality "colours". Although not as descriptive as the Myers-Briggs books, still worth a read. Absolutely fascinating chapter about which colours attract which colours. Extremely well written and very easy to read for non-students.

Excelling insight into people's personality based on scientific research. It's well written and you won't get tried nor bored while reading it.

A great book and read, gives a real insight into our personality traits and tendancies in a straightforward and accurate way. Highly recommended.

I bought this book as it was recommnded to me. I haven't read it cover to cover but it has been interesting to dip into.