So You Want to Talk About Race

So informative. This is one I really do think that everyone should read. I really appreciate how the author breaks everything down, and I like how she tells you at the beginning of a chapter who it's geared for. She does encourage you to keep listening even if it may not necessarily be directed towards you or people like you, and I think this is also good that way we can learn some empathy. What is really sad in today's society is that we have lost 100% of our empathy for our neighbors.Do I think this book will take a raging racist and make them not racist? Of course not because I don't really think that's possible at all. But do I think that this could take somebody who is ignorant and flies off at the mouth and teach them how ignorant and bigoted their speech can be? Absolutely.I really appreciate how the author does not let anyone feel sorry for themselves either. She reiterates over and over and over again that regardless of how you feel about things, what really matters is the opinion of the person of color who is being discriminated against. I hear all too often that a white person doesn't 'think they're being racist' and even I, as a white woman can see that that is just not how it works. We need to take the feelings and the learned experiences of our fellow humans seriously and stop minimizing everything because we've embarrassed ourselves.My book club is reading this author's newest book Be A Revolution so I wanted to go back and revisit this one. I listened to it on audiobook this time around and I really enjoyed it that way as well. The author is not the reader but the reader does a very good job making this book feel more like a conversation than a lecture.

What author would write a book with a target audience that is likely to consider reading it, much less paying for it, akin to wishing for a root canal? Apparently, Ijeoma Oluo.I am a white, sexagenarian, male, and former CEO. I am, therefore, a r#cist. (And yes, I am being sensitive to the censors who will look at this before posting it.) And I accept that because this isn’t about me. My personal tolerance is irrelevant. If a picture says a thousand words, an action is worth ten thousand pictures. That is how we should judge each other.From my very privileged position in America, I have had a bird’s eye view of the systemic, institutional privilege (which in the negative is discrimination) that currently defines virtually all Western institutions today, including virtually all corporations.Women have not shattered the corporate glass ceiling because the corporate institution was designed and built by men. Blacks have not achieved equity in the economic arena because it was designed by white men. Which is why, as Ijeoma points out, it really doesn’t matter if the man in charge is a racist or a misogynist or not.The #MeToo and Black Lives Matter movements are all about gender and racial discrimination. What has enabled misogyny and racism, however, is the definition and allocation of power in our institutions and our society. Tolerance is great, but it’s nowhere near enough. Until we challenge the structure of power, we will not address the underlying cause of social and economic injustice.Here are the main takeaways I got from this book:- It’s not about me or Ijeoma. This is about structural injustice.- It’s not about the tone of the discussion. This is about structural injustice.- It’s not about intent. This is about structural injustice.- It’s not about who is right and who is wrong. This is about structural injustice.- It’s not about who can use what words. This is about structural injustice.In the end, the great strength and the great weakness of our political economy is our over-riding emphasis on the individual and his or her opportunities and rights. There’s nothing wrong with that per se. But in this crowded, technologically enabled world we live in, it’s not enough. We can live individually but we can only be judged collectively. Our insistence that every conversation be about me, or you, or Ijeoma, or that person over there, is blinding us to the degree that we really are all in this together.Scientists used to view the environment as a collection of independent and discrete parts. There was a prairie here, an Arctic ice field there, and a rain forest someplace a long way away. They now realize, however, that there is only one ecosystem and what happens in the rain forest is just as important as what happens in the Iowa corn field.Other scientists have discovered the same thing about the other hard and soft sciences. Biology and economics don’t cut it any more. We have to think in terms of evolutionary biology and behavioral economy. Real understanding lies not just within a functional discipline, but also in the spaces that separates them and the overlaps that interconnect them.So, I go back to my original question. Why did Ijeoma write this book? I won’t pretend to know the answer but it is clear that she has a genuine desire to see us face the issue. And after reading this book it is clear that the desire is genuine. And while it is theoretically true that if she is successful she will have to find something new to write about, so what? That is exactly the kind of binary, digital thinking that is at the heart of the problem. Life is not either/or. It is, with tolerance, and/but.Ijeoma has a perspective. And the tone is sometimes a bit harsh. But how could it not be? In the end I think the most amazing and laudable thing about her language is that she obviously worked so hard to keep a lid on her passion. If she were white, we would elect her to high office.Am I appropriating Ijeoma’s book by writing this review? Yes. But that’s irrelevant. I am not her. And my appropriation is going to paint racism with a white brush and, potentially, demean that pain. But that is the thinking of a binary thinker—either/or. And that, in the end, is what we have to overcome. Tolerant people are not binary thinkers. Tolerance is not a function of embracing the other side of the binary issue. It is about eliminating the binary divide. Ultimately, the racism talked about here is about institutional models of power that disadvantage one group over another. (And, as Ijeoma points out, there are many.)In the end, I won’t say this was the most pleasant read. It was, however, a good read. It made me think. And for that I am grateful to the author. I won’t say, “well done,” because that would be an appropriation, as if I could evaluate how well she had represented her pain. I can’t. It’s hers, not mine. I will say, however, that “I listened.” And I listened because you were clear and authentic. And I do thank you for that.A must read. Period.

Are you working on yourself to check your white privilege? Taking action to dismantle structural white privilege and white supremecy? Reading articles, websites and books? Trying to piece together the issues with the language around white supremacy? This book is for you. Trying to explain to your loved ones why Racial Justice is so important to you? You need this book. It discusses so many racial justice topics and phrases clearly, authentically and with heart. Punches don't appear to be pulled and I think that was necessary. I highly recommend this book. In fact, I hope you read it in your book club, buy one for your community Little Library, and make it the book you give for birthdays this year.Chapters important to me were: "What is intersectionality and why do I need it?", "But what if I hate Al Sharpton?", "How can I talk about affirmative action?" and "What is cultural appropriation?"Two chapters broke my heart: "Why can't I touch your hair?" and "Why are our students so angry?"Two favorite lines: "Nothing lets you know you are going to die alone like when you try to find a seat in a school cafeteria...""To refuse to listen to someone's cries for justice and equality until the request comes in a language you feel is comfortable with is a way of asserting your dominence over them in a situation."You may have seen blog posts about paying Black Women for their work - for taking time to educate us. This needed education is a Black Friday, Cyber Monday and Small Business Saturday bargain rolled into one at thrice the price!

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I bought this book initially to help me navigate through conversations about race, as a white British women. I love how each chapter clearly covers the most common issues regarding race, starting with an anecdote (Ijeoma's personal experiences), to the same patterns being experienced by other black people, to the facts & statistics, following on to how to talk about these issues and what to remember. I love Oluo's direct approach towards white people and her heartwarming reminders towards people of colour. This book is fantastic to get started with talking about race and is for both white people and people of colour. It stresses the importance of talking and having these conversations and I feel like the book sets a good foundation for these much needed discussions. Her reminders that talking is just the beginning and the road ahead is long and bumpy is essential and I know that anti-racism work will not stop here. This book has inspired me to look deeper into racism, but for now I feel confident that I can have conversations about race in my local community today, tomorrow, forever. Thank you to Ijeoma for writing this book.

This book is meant to make the very broad, nuanced and very often difficult subject of race accessible to those who wish to discuss it and it does so very well. Ijeoma's prose is empathetic, engaging, easy to follow, laden with historical examples and contexts, and backed by credible data and sources. She wants to get you talking about it.She also does not sugarcoat a thing.For marginalised people, but ESPECIALLY black people, this may be a bit of a draining read in places. I highly recommend it, but Ijeoma lays extremely bare her own personal experiences, ones that resonated with me and might do the same for you in a way that may leave you raw, bitter, cynical, hurting, scared, frustrated, uncertain, livid, and a host of other things, not the least of which is Tired. She makes you feel. That might be more than you want to deal with at times, but, if nothing else, it reinforces that you are not alone. There is also plenty of levity and working optimism, so it is not all bad.Many sections are addressed to white people, but, like she, I recommend it to everyone, especially if you're part of a marginalised group and know something doesn't sit well with you or if you come across something racially charged, but have no idea how to approach or articulate it or if you even should. It's a great help in that regard.The title also does the book a bit of a disservice, because it discusses INTERSECTIONALITY, which is of paramount importance. Race intersecting with things like gender and sexual identity, mental health, ability, others, and their impacts. It's something of all-around guide to people of today, incredibly relevant and handy to have and handles the topic thoughtfully. Not only does she challenge white people, but black people, others, the system, and, actually, herself. She challenges us all to be better, more mindful, considerate and inclusive.The tragedy of this book is that it needed to be written at all, but it's absolutely wonderful, worth your time, your money, and your consideration.