Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives

He couldn’t put it down- read this one first before reading another of Dr Laura’s excellent books.

Good read

I only heard her show once, and was not impressed at all. But this book is quite excellent if you are trying to sort out your life, or what you may be going through or did go through. While I didn't find all the chapters worth reading, the ones I did like were very insightful, essentially doing mini case studies on what has happened with her callers, by relating their stories.The first chapter, Stupid Chivalry, explores how guys who are "too nice" to women may be denying their real needs and therefore not being real. This backfires for the "nice" guy, but results in a dupe being available to be used by a woman who wants things done for her. Women want men who are real as mates. The chapter also explores guyus being nice because they may feel that their hand is so weak, that they welcome someone who has a lot of troubles so that they won't have to worry about being abandoned. They will feel needed. But unlikely is the case that they will be wanted for more than solving problems of the troubled woman.The 6th chapter, Stupid Matrimony, explores idiotic motivations for getting married. "She's cute!" is one of them. With so many marriages ending in divorce, it is obvious that people do not always have the resources to think through what is drawing them towards marriage in a practical way. This book is an excellent eye-opener. Just because someone is wonderful to have fun with does not mean that you can overlook their flaws and get away with it. The message of this book, through the histories of her listeners is you will not get away with it. Having someone you can rely on and work with is very important. And making excuses for a woman's current behavior, if it isn't good for a relationship, won't make that behavior go away in the future.In short, those two chapters were so good in helping me analyze my life that I picked up a copy of the book for a friend who has done some of the stupid things. This book is about seeing stupid things we can do as stupid, rather than just feeling our way through and thinking things will magically work out, and that we will be appreciate, or that the woman will behave better.If you are trying to sort things out in you life, relative to women, this book should help you see a lot more clearly. And I say that having read many books on related areas.Good luck.

Brought up in a strong Christian tradition, I felt obligated and eager to give whenever asked and pretty much offered myself as a sacrifice for whomever came along...espcecially the Damsel in Distress. Such attitudes brought me to a place of usefulness in my career (physician) but also exposed me to the "Stupid Chivalry" trap. I lost a few fortunes and much sleep before I finally got slammed hard enough to be a little more careful with offering myself and the fruits of my labor. This book helped me see when I was about to make a useful sacrifice and when I was about to waste time or money (Stupid Chivalry) that might be better directed toward another person (How to know when I'm playing the Knight and when I'm playing the Fool).Would I have listened had this book been required memorization material at the age of 14? I don't know. But, all three of my sons will be required to practically recite chapter 1 to me before they leave home for college.The rest of the book speaks practical self defense for the moral minded; but chapter 1 seems to be the most useful.Also, read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Glover if you have trouble doing too much for the wrong people at great cost to yourself and to those who really need you most.--Charles Runels, MDAuthor of "Anytime...for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, & Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation (A 15-Day Course for Men to Improve Life and Sex)"

I love this book! I’m not a man but I’m a mother of six sons and can understand the warnings Dr. Laura gives.

Good read. Dr. Laura is very severe in her criticism of stupid men. So she seems a little harsh even though the man reading her book is a faithful, loving, sacrificing husband and father who is trying to learn what more he can do to be a better family man. This book has helped me appreciate my husband even more since Doctor Laura makes it seem like so many men out there are just so stupid. I married a great one!

I bought this book with the hope that it would help me see how my recently failed relationship came to be. Turned out to be the best thing to help me through what rates as my toughest life challenge - divorce. I made it a point to read every night before bed to help me concentrate on improving for the future, not the failure of the recent past and it worked great and is still helping. The best part is that it is not preachy in any way and she gets the point across by using the real life situations of her callers / letters. My ex should definately read this or the other one for women, that's for sure!

I had listened to Dr. Laura for some time on a local radio station. Some time ago, I purchased and read her book entitled "Ten Stupid Things Men Do To Mess-Up Their Lives" and found it to be current and useful. Just recently, I re-read that book and thought the companion book entitled "Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess-Up Their Lives" would be useful to my teen-age granddaughters and daughters by affinity. I purchased several copies of the book for these women and even took the occasion to read the hard-cover book. I was not disappointed, as her words should be very helpful to women to have real personal growth in becoming the people that God intended.

I do like Dr. Laura and (some) of what she says. The book fell apart though in the end when she started quoting figures, claiming that more money was spent on female illnesses than male ones and how this is illustrative of women holding all the power today.Actually, historically (we are only talking back to 1970s) most drugs were not tested on men, as it was assumed they would work just as well in women. A cardiologist friend told me its total guesswork when trying to treat his female patients with angina. Women just don't respond in the same way as men do to these drugs. Physiological differences that haven't been accounted for. There's absolutely no incentive for the pharmaceutical companies to repeat the studies on women, the drugs have been approved long ago and are being used all over the place.Dr. Laura (shes' not a medical doctor which may explain her faulty logic here) she compares breast cancer vs. prostate cancer, arguing that in the USA far more is spent on breast cancer research than prostate cancer research, again supposedly to demonstrate women's upperhand in health matters. Despite her figures, women die from breast cancer. They die young sometimes. They leave behind young children and its an absolute tragedy. As for prostate cancer you are far more likely to die WITH prostate cancer than FROM prostate cancer. To put it another way, you're an old bloke with cancer in your prostate and you actually die from something else, a heart attack, a stroke, an accident. Except in the most exceptional of circumstances prostate cancer is a very slow growing disease (10-15 years before anything happens type slow) and appears in elderly men. So clearly, research authorities are going to put more money into the disease which kills people and kills them younger, breast cancer. If more money goes into other female treatments its to redress the balance from years ago. Honestly, if you're a woman with angina its pot luck. At least nowadays research is done with both genders and all races.The thing is, I actually do like the rest of the book, its very sensible no-nonsense advice, she just stumbled when she stepped into an unfamiliar territory talking about health statistics and I was holding my head in my hands... thinking are people going to be convinced by the stuff she is saying here?! Urgh probabaly! Dr. Laura you are a good woman but please stick to your expertise morals, values and ethics. Not flipping medical statistics!

ACCORDING to my husband - should be required reading for all stupid guys who are a little slow to mature. As evidenced by wether you have a decent woman on your arm for longer than 3 months.

Bought it for my adult son. Not sure if he'll read it.You can lead a horse to water ......

Every man & women should read this book

Simple but true. Few people think about what this decision will affect 5, 10 or 20 years from now. A great thought provoker.