Kim Jiyoung, Born 1982 Paperback – January 9, 2021

I think this book is worth your time. But I think it is also worth tempering your expectations against the way the book has been advertised, especially in its English translation. For example, according to the inside of the hardcover dust jacket this is presented as the story of “a thirtysomething ‘millenial everywoman … at the center of our global #MeToo movement.’” I want to gently push back on this marketing copy as I think the novel and the characters rise above that of archetype and stereotype.There can be something flattening about how the everyday indignity of sexism and discrimination is unintentionally smoothed over when described as “universal.” When discrimination happens to you, what can be so shattering is how excruciatingly individual and direct that pain can feel; how hard it can be to put what just specifically happened to you into words, let alone speak of it to others; finally, it is astonishing how difficult it can be for others to truly understand in a meaningful way what you, as an individual, went through: This is the experience that Cho Nam-Joo attempts to capture in this novel and one I feel the author succeeds in doing.You are never left in doubt that this is a novel about Kim Jiyoung, and as you read, you will be told more about her older sister Kim Eunyoung, her mother Oh Misook, her grandmother Koh Boonsoon, and more. The circle of women in her life shape and inform, guide and restrict, challenge and sometimes even seem to possess her as their lives unfold and fold into each other’s. This is not a novel full of exquisite prose and brutal interiority that delves deep into the stream-of-consciousness of our central character. It is not slow or meditative. It is a blunt book. The narrative does not dawdle and is structured to move quickly across several periods of Kim Ji Young’s life labelled “childhood,” “early adulthood,” and (tellingly) “marriage.”In the English translation by Jamie Chang, the plot of the novel carries an urgency and reads as taut like a spring, uncoiling as you read it. The story presents a steady, ceaseless stream of individual, highly personal episodic events from Kim Ji Young’s life as well as the other women in her life: Moments where their status as a woman was used by others to truncate a dream, bring them fear, make them uncertain, to be imposed on them by another as a way to reduce their ambitions or their agency. These moments begin in slow waves at first. And at a certain point, the narrator even begins to cite statistics from the likes of the Economist, or the Ministry of Labor, or Statistics Korea at the end of a narrative event, in the same manner as one might add an underscore or italics for emphasis. By the end, these moments arrive almost ceaselessly, one after the other. I certainly felt overwhelmed as a reader.At 163 pages, I was able to finish the slim, hardcover version in a single sitting, on a quiet Friday. The ending of the novel, which I leave for you to discover, made me feel more acutely than ever the challenges we have in lasting empathy or understanding. The novel shows how easy it is, for anecdotes or accounts of suffering to induce a moment of clarity, and empathy, to bemoan the circumstances. It also shows how easy it is to revert to the mean, to proscribe a platitude, to once more slip into a norm of everyday inequity. I found this book to be a source of many good conversations, and an opportunity to discuss our individual experiences, and made me hope for more lasting awareness of our capacity to discriminate – unintentional or not – but also our ability to be better.

This book found me. It reads more like a fact-born, biography couched in a fictional easy chair. Very interesting in that respect. As a woman raised in the US, it gave me significant pause. We moan about our plight but let's consider women in other lands. I've traveled to South Korea several times but as a visitor it is very difficult to truly grasp truth in culture. This book allows for that and its' honesty is both compelling and admirable. It is difficult for a woman to read this book and not consider that humanity is indeed still struggling with significant reform when it comes to gender roles, marriage, workplace equality, and child rearing. How did our species get so lost and confused about such basic aspects of existence? Great book for the instigation of serious thought and potential to spur others towards profound change for the benefit of all.

Quick read that is a kick square in the balls. You don't need to be a woman or have a strong background in Korean history to appreciate the power of this story. This is not an uplifting, feel good story. This is a direct look into misogyny and its far-reaching impact. I am going to be thinking about this book for a long time and will buy a physical copy for my collection of favorite books.

This is basically an expose of everything that has been wrong with the way South Korea treats, and has treated women. I think it is quite clever in the way it is written, a mixture of memoir, diary and novella. It communicates its message through character archetypes and typical social scenarios. Its mass appeal stems from the way in encapsulates the experience of most Korean women born in from the 70’s to the 90’s. It functions as an awakening, a long-due dam-burst of expression in a society known for its cultural straightjacket.The Republic of Korea is a country that modernized quickly in terms of infrastructure but lags when it comes to quality of life and social justice. Things have improved a bit since this book was penned, but it can still be a stressful and frustrating place if you are female or belong to a minority. It is a society of advanced technology yet still in the grip of outdated traditional practices and oppressive societal expectations.It is a fairly quick read, you will get through it in under a week. This is because it is quite brief but also fairly engaging. It will be of interest to anyone who has spent time in the country. It begins to dismantle a carefully constructed façade, the illusion of a perfect country, an image oft presented to the international community and one that has depended on Korea being still relatively unknown to the world at large.

I enjoyed every part of this story. It was a complete eye-opener to read about the character's life and in-turn the cultural differences that women in South Korea have to endure. The generational differences are slowly advancing but nothing compared to the advances in America for women due to the power of social reform. I say this as a male reader. It was definitely a learning experience for me.

The ending is so open ended, but ig in a way, it makes sense. There is no happy ending in this. The world is changing, but it’s not changing fast enough & women are still struggled in today’s world. I’m proud of all my girlies 🫶✊That last chapter was so full of irony too.

This book is a must read. Narrates incredibly tough yet relatable, even if we don't realize it yet, topics and does a beautiful job of illuminating what is taken as normal, which perhaps should not be.