Stop People Pleasing: Be Assertive, Stop Caring What Others Think, Beat Your Guilt, & Stop Being a Pushover

Patrick’s books all give very good advice, and this is no exception. Very easy to read and follow.Patrick explains how people become people pleasers, why stopping is important and how to do that.Very helpful and informative.

I found the start of the book a little presumptuous and rigid, in that it gave set reasons why someone might people please and how they might do it. I found I tended to I wasn't being described at all and was starting to doubt I was actually a people pleaser.Luckily as I read on, I found the actual advice into how to stop it great and encouraging. I particularly enjoyed the chapter on boundaries interesting and took a lot from it. It's definitely more dominated with the work place people pleaser and so if this is your area of concern then it will be a great tool for you.I'd have liked to see a chapter for those people who know a people pleaser and what they can do to help them. I have several friends who I see being used and ultimately hurt or stressed from taking on too much and I often wish I could help them out.All in all I would say this book is a good read and will help you to identify some of the areas in your life that need to change, and then the tools to help you make that change.

Very informative and easy to understand. I've learnt a lot about myself and my seemingly innate need to please everyone around me. I have also realised how many people take advantage of me on regular basis! No more people pleasing for me.Something really good about the book is that there are strategies on how to say no ranging from easy and kind - to build you up to it; and then strategies for a straight up: nope. Not gonna happen!

Being a pleaser is a problem. It probably stems from your childhood. To solve it, you need to start being more selfish. It's OK to do that. Yes, it may cause a few issues, but overall it's worth it.That really is the entire content of this book, only it took me 2 lines whereas the author requires 230 pages.I got this book because Amazon made me an offer I couldn't refuse, by discounting the kindle version massively. But seriously, it needs to be a 2-page magazine article or a web page. There's only a finite number of ways that you can tell someone to be more selfish, and this book manages to do all of them many times over.Save yourself a few hours' reading time. Google the subject and find a shorter version of the advice.

Great book, easy to read and lots of relevant examples. Really helpful and thought provoking. Lots of practical suggestions about how to change habits. Motivating towards change, not too long either.

I got this book on kindle and read it from cover to cover I could not put it down.The author puts some very good home truths in there that I was not aware of such as those of us that are people pleasers may not be as nice as we think we are.I found the book to be very very helpful and informative especially about people pleasing turning into anger which is the stage I was at before this purchase.The end result is I’ve cut off a toxic “friend” who I was (choosing) to pander after and in effect have cut us both free.I feel much better and confident and more importantly self aware of my own behaviour no matter how ‘ nice’ I thought I was being,Will definitely buy more from this author. Good stuff!

This is a well laid out book and clearly written in accessible language, but does not dumb-down a highly complex and personal issue. There are insightful explanations around each part of people-pleasing and practical suggestions for change, but it would have been even more helpful if these actions could have been extracted into a separate 'workbook' section at the end of book for ease reference.I'd honestly recommend this book to all people-pleasers who want to have more say in their lives.

This is the second book in this self help collection that I've read. As a serial people pleaser I'm so glad I read this, it offers plentiful helpful advise and methods of dealing with my bad habits that I've already started to implement with great effectiveness. Easy to read and understand with real world examples and helpful summaries. I'll be reading the next in this series by Patrick King.

This was a really good and inspiring book. Sometimes some of the advice in here makes you say “well, I could’ve thought of that” but then you have to remember that if you had thought of that you wouldn’t be reading this book 😉 . And even if you didn’t think of that, hearing these ideas, explained with such confidence really allows them to sink in better. Some of the stories and points can be condensed a bit as well. I found myself skimming at times after getting the main ideas. But I think Patrick storytelling style will appeal to many nonetheless. Overall recommend this for anybody who has trouble saying no, and disappointing the people in their lives.

I really identify with the writers style in communicating what happens inside when I say no. The tension, the need to belong is quite strong and the author plots a way out.

Its weird, how life turned me into a mixed yarn ball, and then this book just uniformed me. Still long way to go but now it feels light to handel

It definitely helped me. I knew many points highlighted, however the author managed to compress and explain very well what you actually need to do, in order to improve the bad habit of people pleasing.I was really looking for a book with practical experience and examples and not a self help ( useless such as be stronger, you can do it blabla...) And this book stood up for the challenge.I totally recommend!

O livro é curto, mas contém uma linguagem direta e também possui boas estratégias para lidar com esse tipo de comportamento de querer sempre agradar as pessoas. Vale uma leitura como porta de entrada no tema.