Hurt People Hurt People: Hope and Healing for Yourself and Your Relationships

You need to have a desire to be 100% honest with yourself before you read this book.

I would reccomend this book to people who have seen trauma in their lives. But only if they are in counseling. I'm not sure I would venture this read alone. It's raw and truthful. Healing DOES hurt. There were times I would have rather thrown this book across the room than finish, and it was a slow, painful process... but that's because it's TRUTH, and it WORKS. It not only helps to let go: it also challenges the reader to make changes. Definitely worth the fight. I would recommend, though, buying the paperback version. And keep a Bible, tablet, and pen close by. Don't rush through it. Take your time and read it twice if you have to. The author knows exactly what she's talking about, and this book is very helpful.

When I read books of this "self help" or psychological nature, at best I usually gain new insights occasionally and am grateful for them. I purchased this book because of the fine amazon reviews located here. I have a sense that the reading of this book has been truly life-changing for me which is an unusual event in reading a book and I am therefore profoundly grateful to the author. My hope and belief is that exposure to this book is changing me favorably far more than most books on such topics do. It has addressed my pettiness and penchant toward keeping a resentment far more deeply than other books I have read--even books specifically on the topic of forgiveness. I have a sense that the author herself has delved deeply--truly deeply, into her own life, its challenges, quests and foibles and that digging in fearlessly has made her far more genuine, and given her a far greater depth and frankness on these topics that is normally found. I would love to read the book again. It was not just an academic exercise for me. I wish my mother and brother were still alive now so that I could do things differently. It gave me insights on that great a level.

I enjoyed this book. She adds quite a bit of scripture to her narrative, so if you are turned off by a lot of Christian references, you may want to find a different book. For those with a strong Christian background, this is an excellent book for you.

This book and the lords help have given me a true and honest perspective of how I must have held on tight in my suffering and joys to Gods love for me. I may have not realized it at the time but by reading this book It surely made it clear to me. I thank you for being honest and the lord bless all who let him in. Amen

I know from my past that hurt people hurt people and I kind of went into this book as if the author was already presenting the obvious, however, there were many things that I learned about my self through reading the book. I am a Christian and I LOVE that she offers advice based not just on her experience as a therapist, but she also backs up her advice to the Word of God! What God says about us. Thank you for this book! This is one I will recommend to many!

Soo fat the book is great

Some parts of this book were difficult to read because of my own childhood wounds, but I appreciate being able to recognize myself as God sees me, through the pages of this book. I laughed, and I cried, but above all, I am thankful.

Too religious for my liking. I will never purchase a book from this author again. Terrible and I request a refund.

It all made sense. Good book to read. When hurt we often lash out, but then afterwards regret our words or action. This book gives us insight into why we do this and can help us to move forward in a more positive way.

I love the message of this book. You should try it if you are the sensitive type. Thanks.

This is a brilliant if sometimes hard hitting book... Be prepared to really THINK about things & be honest about yourself! Think it will always be a good reference book in future too.

I thought this was just a self help book for dealing with relationships but it's so chalk full of Christian dogma and propoganda that it's almost unreadable if you are not a Christian. I really wish there was a disclaimer on this. in the first chapter when identifying shame, on page 17 it actually says "God sees each of us as being equally and helplessly bound in sin and deserving of the death penalty." It would probably be readable without the dogma but I just can't stomach my way through it to find the silver lining of actual psychology.I'm glad this book was cheap but I still feel like I wasted my money. I'm sure it might help someone out there but I doubt I will be able to suffer through the sermons this book has on every page.