Overcoming Frustration and Anger

Paul suggest that recognizing a conflict between what you want and what you are getting doesn't need to result in anger. That sounds like a wonderful idea to me. However, Paul goes on to suggest many frustrating scenarios and more importantly that other people have the right to frustrate you in those manners without receiving any punishment. He emphasizes that we must avoid anger by simply accepting that life is unfair. The book almost reads like an extended series of taunts. He argues that punishment is wrong. He encourages self defense, but suggests that a bully who beats up your child should not be punished. He even suggests that capital punishment is completely ineffective, because it does not correct the homocidal behavior. Overall, I think Paul could have made his point by emphasizing the value of compassion instead of simply telling the reader that others have the right to abuse you. As Paul suggested, simply telling someone they are wrong does NOT tell them HOW to be right. Paul did not explain how I could convince the bully to stop being a bully. He did suggest that loving thy enemies was the only way to win their friendship, but he didn't explain how to go about loving them while they beat up your kid. Most of the text is wasted on frustrating scenarios followed by the equivalent of a statement that suggests anger is wrong. I think Paul should have provided more step by step examples of the right things to do. Simply saying that a tire has the right to be flat and that life is unfair does not solve the problem. I would have felt better if Paul provided instructions on how to fix a flat tire. If you already believe that feeling angry does not solve problems and that compassion and assertive communication are a way to avoid anger, then I doubt this book has anything else to offer to you.

This is wonderful book from paul hauck.Many authors focus on controlling anger but paul does that job as well as suggesting tips how not to be doormant.There is difference between frustration and Anger.Many people when abused or taken advantage by others keep their frustrations inside without addressing them by talking over or do something about it.This causes built up feelings which may give rise to anger though it is ourselves creating anger.Paul Hauck suggests ways to shows your frustration as well (assertion) as as how to avoid anger in first place.This is what makes book a masterpiece.If we have options to stand up for ourselves,we don't have to put up with nonsense of others.But we can do this without anger.That is what the book is all about. Once the principles in the book are followed with discipline,we get enormous peace inside and outside and infact it is secret of attracting others.

This book was recommended by a friend who has been working with a therapist he calls the Zen master. The examples in the book make a lot of sense when it comes to someone trying to change the way they act in certain situations.Anger can be controlled and this book provides a framework of how to do that.

Should read this several times. Some of it needs to sink in. My anger deterred from a happy surrounding for me and my wife.

The book is great and has helped more than anything I've tried so far. It's helped me more than counseling or group therapy. Now all that said be careful who you buy from on amazon. I rated my seller very low please read my review for him.

I like the fact that Hauck explains that we make ourselves angry. Another good feature of this book is that he gives a number of examples that are motivating.

Book was in perfect condition. Could tell it was old but it looks like the day it was printed except it sat on a shelf for 25 years.

Good book! lots of good and practical lessons in overcoming your anger issues. I would recommend this book to friends

I found the material very dated and the advice given not at all helpful in dealing with the root causes of anger and the emotional fallout that people must address in order to truly heal their wounds. It may be simple enough to state that anger results when our expectations aren't met, but resolving the problems this causes is not always so straightforward and simple a process. I found a much better book on this subject - When Anger Hurts by McKay, Rogers and McKay, also available on Amazon.

The author, Dr. Paul Hauck, is excellent and must read author. Go for his all books if we are to improve our personality by understanding human psychology. I could not ever skip any portion of his books..... so much interesting I found his writing. Thanks to Dr. Hauck, for my personality was immensely improved. I am blessed and fortunate to have read him.

I just want to thank Dr. Paul Hauck again for not only this book but, for all the books he has written. His books are so simply written that any layman can understand the fundamentals of life thro' them. The wisdom of this knowledge itself can take off 50% of your distress. Rest is how strongly you practice them. I am not sure why they are not so popular like some of the other similar books by Dr Ellis & Dr. Burns (I like there work too) but, I would urge everyone to give it a shot to read Dr. Hauck's books.You will love it! Thank you.