For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men Kindle Edition

I really enjoyed the book as it provided deep insights into the men around me and how I could better love and serve them… especially my husband. The research behind it made it even more profound. I’ve already encouraged my girlfriends to get a copy as I think every woman should read it.

Highly recommend this insightful book!

Insanely eye opening, it was actually my husband that recommended this book to me while he read for men only and I have to say I am very great ful and appreciative that the Lord brought these books into our lives when he did I thank the Lord and the Author for these amazing insights. Its a lot of helpful information that I will try my best to retain in the moments I need it most.

When I got married I wanted so much to be a godly and great wife to my hubby! What I didn't realize was that sometimes my female brain with its ways of thinking and showing my love to him and his male brain and the way it is wired meant that sometimes there were things that I was doing, or not doing, that were causing problems I didn't even realize were there!Thankfully through several different women and blogs I caught on early on into our marriage (probably 2 1/2 years) through books that there were several areas that needed work! I am so thankful that I was able to be enlightened to these things early on--and wish I had known sooner!!!! So now for every bridal shower that I attend my gift is three books: For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn; A Good Girls Guide to Great Sex by Shelia Wray Gregoire; and Created to Be His Helpmeet. I include a letter with the books explaining why and how each has shaped and changed my marriage for the better.I first read For Women Only a few years after it was released in . A friend had actually given my Mom a copy and I read through it during one of my trips back home as we were talking about marriage and marriage books. There were so many "lightbulb" moments I had from it! I went back home (I was on the trip home by myself) and after a few days my hubby remarked "I guess I should send you back home alone more often, you always come back more awesome than ever--what on earth is going on??!!" (it happens that a previous trip back home was when I was first introduced to Created To Be His Helpmeet as well--both me and my hubby are super thankful to the ladies back home, haha).So when I saw that For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men was coming out I couldn't wait to get a copy of it! As I re-read it I was struck again by many of the things that made me have "lightbulbs" the first time, and had other things make me go, "Oh!" that didn't the first time-as with every marriage your husbands needs and your situation in life are constantly changing.I loved the all-new chapter "The Thinker" One thing that has always baffled me to no end--and frustrated my husband to no end--is when we get into an in-depth discussion, especially when we have a difference of opinion, and I thoroughly and (in my mind) efficiently put forth my case and he just sits there and says nothing and when I really press him he says something along the lines of "I can't explain it right now but that's not want I think should/want to happen." This chapter made several light bulbs go off as to this whole dynamic and why it does *not* work--and what I can begin to do instead!One chapter that really made a huge difference the first time I read this book was the one on the importance of staying fit/taking care of the way you look. After we first got married I (unknowingly) put on about 30 pounds (if you've followed my slim and trim quest you already know about this). I read this book right around the time that I had realized that I had gone up so much in weight and it really smacked me at how unhappy Bob probably was about it but, like all good hubbies, he had never said a word! Sure enough now that I'm actively working out and trying my best to take care of the way I look, even post-two kids, he's (very gingerly, when I brought it up) mentioned how hard that was on him!This book really is everything your husband wishes you knew about him--but would die before telling you himself, or simply doesn't "get" that you don't "get"! As I said--this is one of only three books I'd call absolutely MUST HAVE marriage books! It's a short, easy read but wow, what an amazing little book it is!

This is truly a must read for any woman! I think the key point to take home is that men need to feel respected like we need to feel loved and that these primary needs we have are just different enough that our approach to everyday issues is very different. Who knew that guys perceive reminders as an affront to their abilities? Who knew most men would rather feel unloved than disrespected? Who knew that the simple day to day things we sometimes say and do can challenege our mens' sense of manhood? This book answered some questions about men's behavior for me. I too thought that his walking away was a negative thing but it turns out most men need to withdraw to process how they are going to respond/proceed. The author lists key points in how men process thoughts and actions differently from women when it comes to their relationships and cites data she and her team collected. She uses examples and quotations which aid in the eye opening messages she gives. The men are visual and lust is wired into them part was fascinating. I would caution that this book has a progressively Christian slant to it and so this section becomes apologetic to a fault. I would tell the author that "Ok, I get it, men are visual. You started to lose me when you got defensive for men and then got too religious about it. Sometimes presenting facts is enough said." The author describes how men have a photo library of visual images that they are wired to collect constantly while women generally are not. As an example she cites her husband's asking her whether after seeing an attractive male actor onscreen she ever found herself seeing that image the next day. He was shocked she said never. I would say never also. She goes on to say how pornography can be so appealing to some men because of the visual images and the inherent "I want you". She gets quite defensive of how men are wired to lust after women. I have ZERO issue with my hubby appreciating beauty in any form. He is evolved enough to say things like "yeah that guy is hot, don't you think honey? Heck if I were a woman I'd be into him!" So I can validate his visual sense and say similar things back about beautiful women. I think he has fewer struggles with the visual thing for 3 reasons; 1) he is artistic so he appreciates beauty for what it is 2) he can very easily separate appreciation of beauty from a sense of guilt or sin or wrong doing of any kind. 3) he is not in fear of religion. And THAT is where the over zealousness re sin, lust etc in the book started to grate on me. Getting too religious about it all had a backhanded effect on me. I didn't need all the Biblical references and metaphors, analogies. That being said the basic tenets of the book are fascinating, eye opening and the author is quite successful at showing how critical understanding these tenets is to a successful relationship. This book taught me that I need to tell my husband (and my son also for that matter, so he can feel empowered as he embarks on his life's journey as a man - another AHA moment I had listening to this book) the many words of praise and appreciation I use telling other people how wonderful he is. It's not about his missing a small detail somewhere in the day to day but what we BOTH need is for me to voice my appreciation so he can feel loved the way he needs it and so that I can feel the full impact of his love back. Doing this is the single most important thing he needs from me. There's a good section on sex and male/female differences in perception of it's role in a relationship. Not as eye opening as some other points she presents. This is not a ultra conservative, woman is subservient message. It's a very positive and loving, don't assume cause you're likely to assume wrong message. I would tell my children to pick a mate based on how they would envision each other being open to the message of this book. I think I would even give this book and it's companion for men (I haven't read it yet but deduce what it might say based on this one) as engagement gifts...or sooner.A worthy read/listen. I guess I would tell my "sisters" out there, don't be too rigid about the actual words of the book, but really listen to the message behind it. If you let your man know/feel how much you truly appreciate what he is and does in all the ways that matter, to him and to you, he will feel empowered and be more loving.

This was a great book and I wish everyone would read it

I recently read For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition, and found it to be incredibly insightful. The book offers a deep dive into understanding men’s perspectives and behaviors, which can be really eye-opening.One suggestion that stood out to me was to have your husband read For Men Only first and highlight what pertains to him. This way, both partners can better appreciate each other's viewpoints. To follow through, I bought For Men Only to complement it, and it turned out to be a great pairing.Reading both books has been a valuable experience. They provide practical advice and foster a greater understanding between partners. If you’re looking to enhance communication and empathy in your relationship, these books are a fantastic duo. Highly recommended for couples aiming to deepen their connection and understanding!

Every woman needs to read this! It is a very clear and precise guide on how to understand better our man.

So many insights I didn't have were uncovered here and I really loved it and definitely will implement it in my life

As someone who is still young and in a relationship, it was quite interesting to see how men work. Shanty Feldhahn did an amazing job, not only explaining but also provoking the reader to think about their actions. As women we often tend to want to fix things and often also our partners, but what I've learned is that excepting them for who they are, their manly nature, will give you strength to be the loving spouse that your partner deserves. I'd recommend it to anybody in a heartbeat.

An eyeopener....if you want to know what is that thing which is going wrong in your relationship....ladies just read this.......

This is a simple book, with no pretensions to exhausting the subject; but it is clear, direct and useful. And not only for women in a relationship - it made me understand a few things about my father and brother, and see ways in which I can have a better relationship with them. It also made me want to be in a long-term committed romantic relationship with a man - it must be a fascinating thing to be that close to one of these incredible creatures! :)