The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the "Love Lab" About What Women Really Want

This book offers valuable insights based on clinical research conducted on 3,000 couples over a 40-year period. The author John Gottman writes in a clear, flowing and easy-to-understand, sometimes humorous, style that makes this book an easy and enjoyable read. The chapters are also logically organized and provide a progressive learning experience.The key takeaways on what a woman wants from a man in a serious relationship:1. Trustworthiness2. Safety.The author provides tools on how to build trust and the sense of safety.The author then takes the reader through the different stages of a serious romantic relationship:1. Dating2. Romancing the woman and determining if she is the right one3. Making love to her4. Living with her day-to-day5. How to love her for a lifetimePlenty of helpful tips are offered for each stage. Wait till you READ the chapter on 'Making Love to Her' !!!The only caveat is that the couples in the research are from the Washington area. So, some of the conclusions and priorities may change depending on regional demographics. Nevertheless, I highly recommend this book to any man who wants to keep the love of his life for a lifetime.

As a female with more of a male mind at times. I can say I want to hand this over to every male that I know. It’s very easy to read and the recap at the end of the chapter in bullet point really highlight the does and don’t. If this book keeps going as well as it is I’m going to be very happy. It’s easy to read and I hate reading.

First let me say that I hold John Gottman in the highest esteem. His work in the field of marriage is groundbreaking to say the least, and in my experience nothing short of a godsend. Yet I have to wonder if it is indeed fair to hold this work up to the standard of his previous books, mostly because it is addressed entirely to the male gender. Which is where the presentation goes off the rails in my opinion. As far as the practicality, relevance and accuracy of the information presented in this book, I offer no dispute. It is the tone and presentation that has me disappointed. I have never considered myself an intellectual, but if the neanderthal this book addresses is a run-of-the-mill male humanoid, then I may be an intellectual dweeb after all. Once again, the advice is relevant and putting it into practice will yield positive results; but this book does not do itself any favors by assuming all its readers are mouth-breathing numbskulls with no life skills at all. Worth the read, but it feels like wading through an MTV teen sitcom to get the information.

I have admired the Gottman's work at their Love Lab for many years. Bits and pieces of their research have stuck in my mind over time. In The Man's Guide to Women They have written a funny, easy to read and digest synopsis of decades of research, which you can take advantage of in a few hours of your time. Some easily implemented skills for all of us endeavoring to be the best that we can be by not repeating the mistakes of the past.As a man, this book resonated with me on so many levels. I have made more than my fair share of mistakes in my time on this planet! Having spent decades protecting others between my military service and my law enforcement career, I was probably too focused on being the stalwart "cave man" protecting his family, to the death if need be, from all enemies.. It's not enough! While as men we are biologically driven by our primal instincts with this protection imperative, times have changed, the threats are different and simply being a do or die defender of the cave doesn't hack it anymore.I'm not saying as men our traditional role is no longer important. If a predator comes through your door at 3 am, you'd better be leading the charge. You'd better be out there trying to provide for the health and safety of your family and putting food on the table. What I am saying is, the perceived threats today are different, generally more subtle and yet still have a significant impact on your spouse. You still need to be there, defending her heart, your kids and your home, just in a somewhat different way.This book resonated with me on so many levels. The last six years with my wife have been amazing and it's not my first rodeo as I mentioned earlier. Why, because I adopted many of the techniques described in the book, through trial and error more than anything else. No brilliant insights on my part. I just banged my head against the wall one too many times. Painful and brutally expensive lessons along the way. Reading the book provided many "Ah Ha, now I get it" moments along the way.Guys, save yourself decades of trial and error. Ladies, this book will open your eyes, not only to the way the knuckle-dragger in your life thinks and reacts, but will give you great insight to yourselves. My wife chose this book as her selection for her monthly ladies book club discussion.

I very much enjoyed the book. I think it is useful for any "clueless" men out there.

Every single man in the planet would benefit to read this book. It explains w what women really want from men. You might think you know but you'd be surprised. It could save so many relationships from ending just by knowing what we tent m truly want from one another in relationships. I got so much from this book. I'm excited

I made a perfectly civil review with some praise and some constructive criticismAnd they told me to change it ...The book has helped me and I thank you for having written it, the writing style has a good vibrationbut there are 2 advises, especially one advise that is told in a not sensitive way to menAdvises in a book should be suggested and not pushedLooking for reasonable balance and compromise is always the correct behaviourSo this resistance to my constructive criticism comes from somebody's fear, not mine, and fear is a bad counselour,If you want to have ongoing success in relationships you always need to go towardbeing just and sensible to women and to men, both human beings with feelings and desires

The book opened my eyes on how different women and men are. A must-read to every "nerdy" or engineer or programmer man.

They book is great with powerful tips and crazy advice on how to tune in with woman.

Really helpful and down to the point. Find it handy and easy to read. It got me to buy every argument.