Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity

This is personal for me, but if Gary and Mona can share--I can too. In our case, I cheated on my wife. There is nothing in the world that will excuse me for what I have done, and nothing that will ever help me forget the pain and suffering I have caused my wife. I found this book while searching for answers on how to go about fixing my marriage, and it has been an INCREDIBLE resource.It took me reading this to understand how important complete honesty is in order to recover our marriage. It is not an easy thing to sit in front of the woman you love and married as she asks you questions, and admit openly and without reservation that you betrayed her in affairs with other women. I can easily say it has been the most difficult task of my entire adult life, bar none. This book shows you how that honesty, while impossibly painful for you and your spouse to discuss, is the first building block of trust that you will come too."Unfaithful" goes further to discuss the different processes of recovery, and how they coped through it all. They are unapologetically open and direct, always encouraging, and give hope in every paragraph that you read. Most importantly, they have helped me to focus on God in my life, and how to lean on him for the support to overcome impossible odds.We are not out of the woods yet, and still have plenty of hard work ahead of us. However, we are committed to God, ourselves, and each other. I can not recommend this book highly enough to anyone going through this awful mess, and I will pray for anyone who finds themselves in circumstances that land them in the midst of the pages.Gary & Mona, thank you for this. You've been a gift from God to me.

This book was so heartfelt! I found this book for free on Amazon and got it even though my husband and I have not committed adultery. However, my husband does have a pornography problem and God had strongly directed me to read this book so I could know there is hope for my marriage! I am so glad I obeyed God because I found that the author's journey truly touched my own and made me realize the importance of having my husband a number two priority (God is number one ultimately)! The book spoke volumes to me on my own personal life and the hedges I want to have around my marriage as well as my own accountability I need to have!

God led me to this book 2 months following the revelation of my husband's affair. As I read each page I felt as though Gary and Mona had a window into my life. Although many tears fell frequently as I read and prayed through their story, it provided (and still provides) a great source of support as my husband and I travel this uncharted territory with the Lord's guidance. It is my prayer that one day I will understand why we had to endure this pain, but I know without a doubt God will use this for His Glory.I would recommend this book to not only those who have been touched by infidelity but I think this could be a great resource for newly married couples so they could get a glimpse of the incredible pain that awaits if the precious line of fidelity is crossed.Thank you Gary and Mona for being obedient to God's calling to share your story. You have been a blessing to me.

This book is real. Real conversations, real examples & a real heart to help marriages struggling w/ infidelity.Gary & Mona Shriver share their story of how a one year affair PLUS another short term fling nearly ruined their married. Nearly, but it didn't. They open up & share on what the reasons were that led to the affair, how they waded thorough deciding whether to work it out or give up & how they were able to get back on track. They openly share their passion to help other couples who are wondering what just happened to their lives & who feel like they're all alone.I really loved this book & the fact that they shared from THEIR own personal experiences w/o holding back, for the readers' sake, made me connect w/ them even more. If you're looking at this book, chances are you've been affected by an affair, in one way or another. Pick up this book, open up your heart & let the healing & hope begin.

A good explanation of the pain of adultery and what healing looks like. The Shrivers both share their experiences giving insight into how both spouses coped.

Started this book over a year ago and put it aside as boring an unneeded in my life. After all the marriage had been dissolved thirty-two years ago and we moved on. Picked this book up again even though it was hard at first the book was great and provided so much insight to me and knowledge gained from reading this book is fantastic. My life has been improved.

Gary and Mona are fantastic. Their willingness to be open and raw about their own process and the hurt and pain on all sides helped us process it ourselves. Their advice on being completely open (subject to the wise advice/limitations in the book of asking sincerely “do you really want to know” of the spouse before answering a detailed/sensitive question) is fantastic and has led to more openness than ever before in our marriage. God gets all the glory for speaking to my spouse but this book is a big help and I’m very thankful for their writing.

I've never read this author before and I have to say while I hated the circumstances that brought about my reading this book, I found the book itself very hopeful and encouraging. It chronicles another couples' journey and struggles in overcoming an affair. It's split into parts and sides (Example: It tells the wife's version of an event then it tells the husband's and so forth and so on). The only negative I had about it was it didn't always answer all my questions about how and what to do with certain areas of things, but I didn't really expect it to because my personal situation wasn't exactly the same as theirs and nobody's is so no other couple can really honestly tell you how to fix your own marriage. However, if there was to be a book out there that gave me the most hope and helped me understand that everything I was feeling and doing was normal and not psychotic, then this would be the book. Thanks to the Shrivers for their openness and honesty!

Excelente libro. Práctico y lleno de esperanza. De los mejores qué hay sobre el tema. Si estás pasando por esta circunstancia te recomiendo que lo empieces a leer ya.

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Delivered on time. Just as expected. Detailed book with lots to take in.

Aus der Sicht eines betroffenen Ehepaares mit grundlegender Darstellung der einzelnen zu bearbeitenden Bereiche. Tipps und guter Rat für Paare, die durch den Alptraum Untreue / Ehebruch durchmüssen. Hilfen zum Neuanfang. Schade, dass es das Buch nicht auf deutsch gibt!

AWESOME