Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help

As an ADHDer, I don't get a lot of reading done. But by golly has this been the first book in a long time (since Chuck Palahniuk's Haunted) that I've not wanted to put down since picking it up. First day of ALL my 'things to do' where I sit on the toilet and couch just head down in a book! Talk about a hyper focus.I can't wait to be done with it so my neurotypical (possibly autistic) hubby can read it as well. Then, I will read this over and over and over.Since he can read something once and get it, while I enjoy rewatching/rereading things to be recaptured by the beauty.As I read from both perspectives, as that empath, I'm in tears! "WHY ARE THEY CRYING" iykyk (if you know you know).This is such a moving read. Not even as a social media follower, but as someone who has ADHD, late into marriage diagnosed, and yet has a husband who has stayed married to me for almost a couple decades.Being married as an ADHDer was so challenging in the beginning, then we found acceptance, but deep down I was still struggling all the time. Then I got dx, and still hadn't realized there were couples out there like us. I feel loneliness like a mofo.This is an amazing read, if you're the spouse of an ADHDer, if You Are the ADHDer, or even if you're trying to learn compassion for your ADHD child. If you can empathize or sympathize, you will understand that this book is a teaching tool to a person for anyone who has ADHD in their (people around you) life.Rox and Richard, you both are loved and understood completely! And we are all still learning about our relationship AND our own individual selves. Much love to the authors.This book is so great, there are no words for me to say how much I appreciate their book, Dirty Laundry!!!Do you know how many pairs of the same sunglasses and eyeglasses I've gone through??? Iykyk.5 stars for airing out your Dirty Laundry as a married couple.Keep on letting the world know there are more like us out there than understood. Truly, THANK YOU!This is a pic of how far I've gotten in the first evening of reading anything! And trust, I've made many attempts on many books... but nothing quite intriguing, heart felt, and relative like this!

This book is amazing- written by two very real and beautiful individuals! This book provides accurate information about ADHD with a compassionate, empathetic, and healing perspective that is unrivaled by most other books on the subject. It creates a space for accurate understanding with equal emphasis on healing the emotional pain that is so often secondary to being neurodivergent in a world dominated by neurotypicals. It speaks to both sides of the neurotypical-neurodivergent continuum, providing a role model for creating harmonious relations among neurodiverse individuals.

I think this book is good for people with ADHD or people who live with them. The material is easy to read and insightful, with humor.

Like so many others, I have become acquainted with the authors, Rox and Rich, through the video shorts they post on social media. They are two of the most sincere, adorable, and good-humored people you could ever hope to meet. As someone who just got my first ADD diagnosis at 60, I can't tell you how wonderful, inspiring, and important it is to witness the processes of, and be in some form of dialogue with, people who have similar situations to your own when you realize you are neurodivergent. Through the retelling of their experiences - the good, the bad, and the ugly - they give us the gift of their ultimate goal: To remove the shame that neurodivergent people are bludgeoned with from childhood. I knew right from the start when Rich asks the question "Why is everyone crying?" that I was in the right place. I laughed and cried at the same time in several parts of the book. (I fully admit that I was 'Procrasti-working'... I'm 'supposed to be' looking for a new job online, but I found it much more satisfying to listen to your Audible.com version of Dirty Laundry while I repaired 4 old laptop computers and set them up as cloud miners. Don't look at me that way! It isn't like I wasn't doing anything productive! lol)I recommend this book to anyone who knows or even thinks they may have ADHD or ADD. Or, if you know someone who does, they need this book. I implore you to let Rox and Rich help lift the Cloud of Shame that settles over all of us who do things 'a bit differently.' Dirty Laundry may just be the mega-shot of sunlight that your neurodivergent brain has been hoping for. Not only are we not alone, but we are also in excellent company with these two. Twelve stars! ;-)

I like this couple’s videos, but I honestly wasn’t expecting the book to be very helpful. However, I was very wrong. It’s short and formatted well, and I read it in less than a day.There was so much specific and actionable information also and breaking down the why is probably really helpful for non-ADHD partners. I’ve been diagnosed for less than a year and I’m still learning how exactly ADHD affects me and how I can counteract it and finding a book like this was a gold mine.Reading the perspective of someone with ADHD and a partner that doesn’t have it was super helpful. I thought my partner just wasn’t patient enough because he would always be so hurt when I would make a mistake due to my ADHD, but reading Richard talk about how he reacted before they understood what was truly going on and seeing how patient and supportive he is now gave me so much hope. The fact that he’s able to support Rox enough that she’s consistently done social media and wrote a book is impressive also. I’m just now learning that ADHD is truly a disability and I really needed to read something like this that could give me hope.

I am new to the ADHD world and it was a good read and I think it would have been better if I had of read a few other ADHD books first to learn more about the disorder prior to this one.

Muy sencillo de leer, las personas con TDAH podemos sentirnos identificados con la experiencia de Rox. Nos da tranquilidad saber que no estamos solos y que alguien sin una neurodivergencia puede llegar a entendernos. Lo recomiendo 100%

I loved the breakdown of a sampling of ADHD symptoms/ attributes. Each had a real world story example and some realistic suggestions for ADHDers and loved ones to go with it. No one is the same and I didn't relate to all of it but I still related to most of it and I know others in my life who struggle more than I do with executive dysfunction like Roxy does. It's a quick read (if you don't count the time living life in between reading chapters) and easily fit in a purse to take with you to all of those appointments that you probably wont have time to read it at since your odds of being late are high. I especially loved reading the ADHD Dictionary in the back. Great book!

Now i have a word for my gardrobe and know that i dont fail only bcs i have a new favorite game after 2 weeks

I appreciated it!

Really well written for both ADHD and partner. Found them on Instagram and found out the wrote a book.