Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People Paperback – Illustrated, 1 Sept. 2015

Recovery begins with nailing what your abuser is, especially when he is a psychopath and this book will help you see that, if indeed your abuser is one. Everything in this book is bang on. It will hurt in parts but it will name what you are dealing with, validate your experiences (when likely no one close to you personally can), and it will show you you had no chance against this twisted mind, so stop beating yourself up about where you went wrong.I became the victim of a psychopath in 2010. I was one of the ones who smelled a rather toxic rat and broke things off. Sure enough, 3 years and counting I am still being stalked, terrorised, harrassed, my car is vandalised (resulting in massive car crash through an electricity pylon which I am lucky to survive), my movements constantly monitored on and offline. Yes I agree with this book my stalker took turns to drive me to suicide or provoke/goad me to get back in touch with him (this wasn't because he wanted me to come back to him. He was setting me up as all psychopaths do. He was desperate to tell me he was married now and really really really happy.My psychopath is a callous sadistic stalker, voyeur, pervert and major criminal who enjoys his freedom when he should most certainly be in prison. He is a very dangerous man wrapped up in a bumbling english country gentleman persona, 'what me, why I couldn't even hurt a fly'. He will not only hurt a fly but you, your friends and even your children if it frightens you. His persona is drivel but it is a persona that fools a lot of people. I am paying a high price for sussing him out. This psychopath has done everything, just short of murdering me ( I hope I do not speak too prophetically) though he has goaded me to kill myself and as I say tampered with my car which many times could have resulted in my death.This book covers all of this. This is what psychopaths do and they don't just do it to you. If you are persecuted by them it's because you are stronger than them. In a way it's a compliment. They can't ever have the women they really want because the women they really want will always suss them out so they they have to settle and when they settle and feel entirely unsatisfied in their 'settled' relationship, they boil with anger inside and take it out on the women they couldn't have/keep. YOU!THIS BOOK IS ESSENTIAL READING to begin the process of stopping your mind going over and over and over and over again why it's your fault. What on earth did you do? You must have treated him very badly indeed. You must be a very bad person to attract such awfulness into your life. If only you knew what you had done so you could fix it. Read this book. Forget fixing a monster and concentrate on fixing yourself. Get some validation. No one else except other victims can give you that. So start by getting some from this book. You must firmly root in your mind that these people are inhuman. Inhuman. Completely and utterly inhuman to an extent you will find difficult to believe because you are so entirely human.I remember telling my psycho about a historical TV documentary I watched where scientists had performed cruel experiments on babies. The programme disturbed me and I described one of the dreadful experiments that was performed on a baby boy to my psycho stalker. Instead of being as disturbed as I was he laughed and began to act out how the baby must of looked during the experiment. My blood ran cold. I didn't understand back then what I was dealing with. I do now. A monster.If you are a victim of a psychopath take heart. Read this book over and over. Get some validation for your experiences. Be amazed at how precisely right it is in every way. And firmly root in your mind that they are inhuman. Stop endowing them with normal human qualities. They don't have any. This is what makes you better than them. No matter how it feels, no matter who they are, they are not better than you. Don't believe it when they stop at nothing to brainwash you into thinking that they are superior to you. They are not. They know they are not. That's why they have to work so hard convincing you you are worthless. TOXIC!!! Read this book. It might hurt a bit in parts, but in the end you'll just feel so validated when you do. Eventually you will stop thinking about them in ways that hurt you, you will start to get angry, then you will feel repulsed by them and then finally indifferent to them. I'm not entirely indifferent yet because i maintain a constant dialogue with the police because of the stalking but I am repulsed and certainly harbour not a shred of warm feeling for him, no matter how rosy it seemed at times in the past. Thank god.The bits about this book I suggest heeding most are the bits about looking after yourself. Treat yourself kindly. Look after yourself mentally, physically spiritually and really do apply the rules of no contact which are most vital. I wish I had had more strength during the worst times.This has without doubt been the worst period of my life and it has spoiled a substantial portion of my children's young life too. I don't know how I would have coped had I not found resources such as this book to illuminate the minds of these heinous people terrorists.

This book was instrumental in learning that I had been the victim of a toxic covert narcissist. After the painful discard, I was desperately confused. I started to research toxic relationships and this book appeared in a number of searches. I couldn’t put it down. I had thought that his behaviour was ‘just him’ and that ‘he was just going through a difficult time’. However, on reading this book, I realised that his behaviour was absolutely textbook narcissist! And my reactions were absolutely textbook too. Wow, what a revelation. I have read the book twice now, as it helped me so much in trying to make sense of the most painful experience of my life. Learning that I had been abused by a covert narcissist was tough to deal with, but I was reassured that it wasn’t anything to do with me, it was his maladapted personality. And it became very clear to me on reading the book that he would never be able to change, a question I had been stuck on. I highly recommend this book of you are wondering if you’re dealing with a narcissist/sociopath/psychopath. Thank you Jackson!

I have bought many self-help books in the past but I have to say that I read this book cover to cover tonight and I got quite emotional. Never have I read a book that has been so accurate. It matched everything I was going through to a T as I reached the stage where the author explains you feel you have lost everything in your life and your future - including the ability to have children or a family - as you feel you will never trust anyone again. That was something I was definately going through and something I always desperately wanted so much and most especially wanting to do in the right way. There is also a recovery section that goes through the steps of your emotions during the recovery phase of emotional abuse which I found quite poignant. That the victims of emotional abuse are normally the ones who carry an innocence about them who always want to help someone in need and make things better and that in turn gives them self worth, so that when you fall in love with a narcissist they normally portray this need - be it something physical that has happened to them or they tell you that you fill all their needs and they never felt like anyone like this before. This in turn makes you feel better because you feel you have 'saved' them or made them whole. In the recovery phase of emotional abuse, the author writes that you loose your innocence, that bit inside you that wants to save everyone and make things better - your light. You are always taking the negative and trying to make a positive, much of it projection, and you have to question how much of this was toxic projection from others. When you loose your light you start to see the world how it really is and realise that there are toxic people in your life, that your light would normally justify but because you have lost it, in can no longer justify these toxic people any longer. When your light is gone you can no longer fix all the broken things and you can't discover that until you have lost the light to see the world how it really is and who you truly are. As you wonder why people aren't more empathetic, compassionate, loving, creative, caring - the gentle souls that walk this earth and touch it with kindness, you begin to get angry with these people and you are quite literally put in a place where you force self-respect on yourself by setting boundaries by cutting yourself off from these types of people, because of this. At this point you begin to surround yourself with the people who share and appreciate the values you believe in and break connections with those that don't. Wow. Pretty much sums up the last two weeks of my life. The whole book was pretty exact about the last seven years of my life! Never has a book hit so close to home - it was quite an emotional experience and one also of relief that someone truly understands - because you are left in a place where you feel no one understands and you have no way out. The author takes you through each phase of recovery and how your emotions will change step-by-step as you reach the path of freedom and also finding out who you truly are. She provides hope when you have lost all faith. Not just in a compassionate sense, but in a logical sense as she can immediately relate to your journey travelled so far. She also confims that the emotions you are experiencing at each stage are normal. The abuser tries to instill in you that it is wrong to feel or express such emotions and that there is something seriously wrong with you, that you are crazy. You are in fact normal and normal, healthy human beings express and talk about their emotions, they do not keep them bottled up.