For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women Audio CD – Unabridged, April 14, 2006

This is one of my favorite relationship books and I recommend it to every couple.I am the wife and read this to see if this was applicable to me, and I will say that I learned more about myself than I thought I would. I realized what I was feeling and finally how to convey my feelings thanks to this book. I gave it to my husband to read, telling him if he really wanted to understand me, this book explains it. Since he has read it, he really has been applying it and we have greatly improved our communication. Many a dumb argument has been extinguished at the start and I feel the care. In turn, I had purchased and read the Only for Women book, and with the knowledge of both books in my arsenal, I am able to convey my feelings better and understand why I react to some things, myself.I also really appreciate how this book offers statistics and common answers among common people in order to find out why the majority of people feel and react the way they do, rather than a therapist offering their opinions. I don't think I've gotten such accurate answers before. I also found this book to be funny and I genuinely enjoyed reading it. This one more so than Only for Women. Maybe I have more of a man's brain lol I needed the humor and encouragement within this book from the author to help me keep reading. (Only for Women is a little more serious and emotional.)Even if it isn't 100 percent applicable to you and your relationship, it is still a great read with valuable tools that could even help with any relationship between men and women. Understanding the base of a man's mind and the possible likely reasons behind his actions is such a good feeling. I apply it to my father and brothers, even, since they too, are men.

Being a man, I am always willing to learn more about female psychology. The problem with the books about this topic is: they are few (women are more interested in reading books about male psychology than the other way around) and they contradict each other. This book adds to the confusion giving some advice which flies in the face of other books I have read.This is a book for committed relationships. And it has a Christian orientation. I don't have any problem with that. Although I am not a Christian, I am religious and Christian references don't bother me. If you happen to be offended by references about God and the Gospels, please stay away from this book.THE GOOD:Firstly, the book is very useful in explaining the reason about some women's behaviors which challenge men's understanding. The book is filled with truths: from the very obvious ones ("Women have lower sex drives than men in average", "Women like to solve problems by talking about them") to the not-so-obvious ones ("Women can't disconnect from a problem as easily as men do").Secondly, the book gives some useful advice to work with the problems explained.Thirdly, the book is well written, easily read and the authors have included a quick start guide which is useful and convenient to review the main points.Fourthly, the book relies on a statistical survey. This fact distinguishes from other books which are based on anechdotal evidence or misinterpretations of scientific studies.Fifthly, this book treats both sexes with respect and this is not usual in this kind of studies (see, for example, my review about "the female brain")So why do I give it only four stars? Because I think the book has some flaws.THE NOT-SO-GOOD:1) The authors have selected some six findings about the inner lives of women and they have submitted these findings to a survey. Good enough but I wonder if these findings are the most important or relevant. Is it not possible to find more than six findings about female psychology? Why these ones and not other ones?2) In my humble opinion, the authors are too confident about the survey. They claim a statement and then they give the survey as the definitive proof. But I am wary about surveys who ask people about their feelings and thought processes. For these "introspection" surveys to be accurate, the following statements should be true:a) People know what they want.b) People say what they think.Obviously, when people are asked about their most intimate details of their lives, you can't be sure of anyone of these statement.About a), people are not always rational (they have a rational brain and an emotional brain). When asked about the motives of actions motivated by irrational feelings, they are prone to rationalize their actions. For example, women (like men) may be rational about their feelings or they may not. I could cite my sister, who every time she has a PMS is compelled to fight with anybody who interacts with her. If she is asked about the motives of these fights, she rationalizes by blaming the other person. Another example can be found in item 3) below.About b), people are prone to hide a thought if this is not approved socially. For example, in page 78 we read, "Shaunt turned to the women in the audience and asked: 'If you had to choose, would you rather endure financial struggles or a lack of closeness in your relationship?'. Nearly every female hand went up for the 'I'd rather endure financial struggles'".Based on this and a similar result in the survey, the authors conclude that emotional security is more important than financial security. Obviously, the authors have not considered that, with this question, they were asking "Do you value more money or love?" or, in other words, "Are you materialistic?" in disguise. What human being would answer affirmatively to this question IN FRONT OF AN AUDIENCE?Even more, a thing is to say "I would endure financial struggles" and other different is to really endure them. Everybody can say "I would endure financial struggles for love" but the proof of truth comes when you are having financial problems, your children are suffering and you see no future. Everybody can pretend to be a selfless individual and to behave with no interest and only based on the highest principles. But, as they say in my country, "When hunger enters through the door, love leaves through the window".A better experiment would have been trying to survey a statistically significant group of men to determine their financial status, their emotional openness and their married state. Then a really simple statistical analysis could have been done to determine if financially secure men are more likely to be married than emotionally open men (these would be only two regressions). This would have been a survey about facts and not about words (which are dozen-a-dime).3) The last problem I find with this book is that it recommends men to be always catering to women's feelings. Even if the woman is pushing away the husband, he must be telling her "I love you". The authors make a good job explaining why this works and I think it works IN THE SHORT TERM. But, ultimately, women don't want to be with a pushover, with a spineless man. They lose respect if you are easily manipulated by their mood swings. If you do everything that is adviced in this book you will improve your marriage in the short term. But I think it would be awful in the long term. Your wife would lose respect for you, would start to be "bored" and you know all these good men and husband who are being divorced by their wives because they are bored.I don't have the answers for that but I think it is better to draw some fair principles at the beginning of the relatioship and not to compromise about these principles because a woman happens to be in a bad mood. When the crisis is over, a woman can understand and admire a man who has done what he thinks it is fair instead of placating his wife by submitting to her mood.THE SUMMARY:So take the advice in this book with a grain of salt. In my opinion, this is a good book but not the Bible about female psychology.In summary, a good book. In a world filled with books about female psychology, it would receive three stars. But, being the sources of information about this topic so scarce, it is a must-read for those of us who really want to understand women and make them happy.

I learned a lot from this book. I think everyone should read this book.

This book has changed my relationships for the better. I wish I had this book 20 years ago.

I brought this book as a half-joke for a man who was always wondering why the different genders took completely different approaches to things and why women are 'confusing'. It's light hearted, easily accessible and carries some thought provoking ideas, even just dipping in and out the pages was interesting. It contains a nice mixture of bullet points, tables, quotes and explanations, as well as a quick start guide at the back.The book itself is written by a man, who has had several deep and meaningful conversations with his wife and has gone down the route of unlocking and then explaining how women think. Even women who read the book were surprised when seeing it from a different perspective as the author manages to sum everything up well. For example, he explains the thought processes of men and women by describing them as computers and goes on to describe the different aspects of that, such as men having a screensaver up sometimes, and women having an endless amount of windows, some of which pop up randomly.A fantastic read, and succeeds where many books fail. It's clear, accessible, sensible and once you've read it, everything fits together and what used to be down-right confusing, becomes common sense, Huzzah!

In brief my reasons for getting this are that my fiencee left and had an affair and I'm left wondering what my role was in that.This is a great book I love the feel of it size and paper and the layout is very easy to read like bite size pionts. The font size is great and there are the occasional survey showing womens answers.On just having a quick look its touching on issies I definatly need to have explained. Ill actually be able to show my woman (when I'm ready for the relationship) that I really love her and make her feel secure and loved. Great.Also in the back there's a 'qiick start' guide as if she were a DVD player. Brillant!I'm currently working on every aspect of my being confidence, communication, attraction and sex. Of all the books so far this format is by FAR the best and not too heavy. Its easy to grasp and should be easy to implement.Made up I got this it will definatly make a massive difference. I'm excited about getting whome I want making her happy and keeping her. With this book those aims are highly possible.

I bought this for my fiancé, who is generally not into reading about relationships or personality, or being 'put into a box'. A great feature of the book is a quick access list in the front cover, that immediately caught his attention, and he has since started reading the book, and quoted it with when we have tried to unpick reasons behinds disagreements or misunderstandings. He even recommended that I bought the 'for women only' book for myself and that we go through them together. I am very relieved to have come across these books before we get married later this year as I think they can only serve to strengthen our relationship.

This book is great in the sense that it presents a few crucial issue in marriage relationship so well thatyou just have to get it. The issue of affirming emotions with my spouse is very important and this book helped me understand it and I am reaping the great rewards already.have already recommended this book to many.

This book is a must for any men wanting to better understand their spouse :)