The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child

The concept of developing ones inner self rather than the current trend of focusing only on external achievements, is really powerful. The book shares some practical ways to achieve this.

Highly recommended if you want to be a better parent and learn why and how to authors approach works.

We love this book, and the other books by the same authors (“The Whole Brained Child” and “No Drama Discipline “). They overlap slightly so it’s helpful to read as a set IMO. We find they fit really well with our parenting ethos and more importantly we better understand our daughters. Using this methodology has meant less fights, more compromises, and generally happier family times! No more toddler standoffs is a real win! I couldn’t recommend them more thoroughly.

Dr. Daniel Siegel é muito didático na sua forma de compartilhar seus ricos ensinamentos, que podem ajudar efetivamente pais e seus filhos em desenvolvimento.

The Whole Brain Child duo Dr. Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s latest book release is entitled The YES Brain. Based on real neuroscience by leading experts in the developmental field, this book is an invitation create ideal conditions for your child to develop the lifelong skills of resilience, empathy, insight and a sense of balance. With real and down to earth techniques of simple shifts in how one does their day-to-day parenting, this manual is a quick read for changing things up in ones’ home and fine tuning attitude. I am speaking from the perspective of a clinician who works with families, and as a parent to four children. A YES environment offers children an opportunity to grow their creativity, curiosity and neural connections toward a healthy brain. Sadly, many factors in our current generation are contributing to children growing up in a NO world. The NO world (that many of us experienced in our own childhoods) is based on fear, rigidity, and anxiety. Sadly, this negative pattern is often perpetuated for generations, and endemic to many institutions across our social landscape. What we know now, thanks to brain imaging, is that a child’s brain is really a reflection of the environment they are raised in. Brain imaging has also shed light on the level of flexibility of the human brain (a concept known as neuroplasticity), and its ability to change, which negates most of the 20th century’s concept of how a brain works. An entire genre of thinking has evolved with this new information, and the parenting market is clogged with products and books espousing miraculous techniques for brain growth. It might be hard to discern what is real and what is fluff when shopping for the right type of book, product, food etc, with so many things crowding this new market. The YES Brain, and everything else written by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, are the real deal.

What went so terribly wrong within my own childhood? I ordered this book because I wanted to know what if anything, went wrong within my childhood. I was trying to figure out how I became the adult who struggles with emotions and self compassion among a myriad of other issues that other “normal” adults don’t seem to struggle with, that I am now learning about. This book explains what children constantly seek out and NEED from their parents and why and how mentally healthy parents often do and should respond to their children’s needs and requests that create a beautiful person as they grow up, one who can self regulate their own emotions and process them in healthy ways. Parents that are healthy and were taught self regulation of their own emotions from their parents will be able to model that for their children. And as the child grows up they will HAVE self worth. SELF WORTH IS EVERYTHING!!! Unfortunately for any emotionally dysregulated parent, they will pass on their own inadequacy of emotional dysregulation on to their child and the child will in turn suffer as the parent did growing up without a sense of self worth. Often the parent is clueless that they lack emotional self regulation and emotional maturity and remain “adult emotional toddlers” as they have just always been that way and emotions are a struggle for them. However they won’t see or acknowledge that their is a problem because the behaviour is engrained in them. And in turn they engrain their dysfunction into there child. There is no closure of the open wound that becomes zero self worth, that is created when a child is not seen, or soothed, or safe or secure within the parent child relationship. That’s what this book emphasizes the 4 S’s that create a healthy person. SUCH AN EASY AND NECESSARY SOLUTION for raising a healthy human!! There are many covert narcissist parents out there. They seek the validation that they never received as children themselves, from their own children and at the child’s expense. The child is taught conditional love. Where the child is expected to behave a certain way or attention is not given by the parent. Why? Because Basically the parents emotions trump the child’s needs and the child learns that very early on they must please there parent and take on the responsibility of making that parent happy to see them EVERY SINGLE time. This is why it’s so hard to pinpoint why so many adults end up in therapy after having a seemingly “good” childhood. You can have all the things money can buy and magical family vacations but if you grow up under the trauma umbrella of emotional neglect or the parent uses the child as the emotional regulation that the parent did not receive, then the child is being set up for a cycle of emotional abuse and manipulation by other covert or overt narcissistic individuals out there. An awful cycle that can be stopped if more people were aware of how this happens. This book told me what didn’t happen that should have happened within my childhood to result in the struggles I carried forever until I started to question my own child hood. I hope you found this review helpful!